extraversion or introversion?
lately, for the first time in my life, i've wondered if i'm possibly an introvert.
i've always thought of myself as an extrovert because i love to talk. i've got a wide spectrum of friends (some nice, some not that nice, but somehow are still friends of mine), and i maintain contact with them pretty well, such that whenever we meet up, we have something to chat about. i love going out too, my family says i get cabin fever if i'm in too much (i attribute that to my doggie traits). i'm not really out of the clubbing phase yet, and while i don't enjoy drinking that much (i don't handle alcohol well), i like to hold a coke and pretend i'm having rum&coke instead.
then why do i think i may be an introvert? i enjoy meeting new people, but i must say that i'm not the overly 'hey-let-me-introduce-myself' kind. i think i'm usually more comfortable being approached (i don't like approaching people), though once i'm in conversation with someone (interesting, that is), i'm quite happy getting to know that person(s). and while i enjoy being in the center of attention, i don't consider myself to be the life of any party. i'm much the follower, not usually the instigator.
so i did a search, and by this questionaire i think i'm 70% extroverted, almost at mid-ground. at least that rating exists.
i've always thought of myself as an extrovert because i love to talk. i've got a wide spectrum of friends (some nice, some not that nice, but somehow are still friends of mine), and i maintain contact with them pretty well, such that whenever we meet up, we have something to chat about. i love going out too, my family says i get cabin fever if i'm in too much (i attribute that to my doggie traits). i'm not really out of the clubbing phase yet, and while i don't enjoy drinking that much (i don't handle alcohol well), i like to hold a coke and pretend i'm having rum&coke instead.
then why do i think i may be an introvert? i enjoy meeting new people, but i must say that i'm not the overly 'hey-let-me-introduce-myself' kind. i think i'm usually more comfortable being approached (i don't like approaching people), though once i'm in conversation with someone (interesting, that is), i'm quite happy getting to know that person(s). and while i enjoy being in the center of attention, i don't consider myself to be the life of any party. i'm much the follower, not usually the instigator.
so i did a search, and by this questionaire i think i'm 70% extroverted, almost at mid-ground. at least that rating exists.
posted by nana at 7:38 AM
3 Comments:
I agree with the results of the questionnaire. I'd say I put you at around 75% extroverted actually.
Maybe your reluctance to approach people first is not a sign of shyness, but is part of social conditioning? On average, (and this is purely anecdotal observation), men tend to be more aggressive at putting themselves out there, while women are more comfortable to be approached rather than make the approach.
What say you?
P.S. You can also try holding a glass of Virgin Screwdriver (a.k.a. OJ) and pretend it's the Vodka-laced version, or Cranberry juice sans Vodka. Or Gin Tonic without Gin.... on second thought, scrap that last one...
well wikipedia also says that reluctance to meet people could also be shyness, which isn't a sign of introversion...?
i don't think it's a men vs women thing however...i know tons of women who're out to getting to know others, and men who are sometimes more shy at it.
I like how you use the word "instigator." earche does that, too. I've always used "initiator" because "instigator" sounds nefarious.
So then it reads: "i'm much the follower, not usually the nefarious leader"
haha! :) :)
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